Abbé Pierre, the
fabled Rag Picker of Paris, is considered a living saint and a
national treasure of France. And he speaks the truth. In a memoir
he recently authored with Frédéric Lenoir he speaks clearly about
the subjects all other priests, at least in the United States,
avoid (or lie about) when they write about the priesthood—their
personal reality.
He speaks with
candor about his occasional sexual encounters with women when he
was a young Franciscan priest. The experience made him unhappy,
“because it made me feel untrue.” I have read a library of
books extolling the priesthood and speaking of the joys of
celibacy, none have ventured to talk candidly about the experience
in personal terms. None have really told the truth. Everybody
admires St. Augustine. Nobody imitates him…………(I
am in the process of reviewing 10 current books on priesthood and
celibacy, and will post them later.)
Pierre’s
experience did teach him something about love and sex: “I
understood that sexual desire, in order to be completely
fulfilled, has to be expressed in a living relationship, tender
and trustful. I had chosen a life that could not allow such a
relationship. I could have only made a woman unhappy and I would
find myself being divided between two irreconcilable choices of
life.” (Chap. 5)
“Truth can only
exist in simplicity, not duplicity. We
[priests] have to reject any hypocrisy so omnipresent [in
our church]. Sex is an extremely powerful
vital force; it is possible for anyone to yield to sexual
temptation. But it is completely different for a priest or
religious to be sexually active. He can cause his victim decades
of suffering.”
The Abbé is
realistic as well as idealistic, an element so glaringly absent in
current literature about priests and celibacy, but so demonstrable
in the lives of celibate saints: “I know
priests who have lived for many years in concubinage with a woman
they love; they reach a degree of inner reconciliation. They
continue to be good priests.”
Of course, the
reality of good priests in stable and responsible sexual
relationships (with women or men) raises questions,
“crucial for the church that involve the marriage
of priests and the ordination of married men.”
“As for me, if I
had married or become involved in a love relationship (une
relation affective particulière) I could never have accomplished
what I have. My vocation required unlimited flexibility. But I am
convinced that in the church there is need for both married
priests and those who practice celibacy who can dedicate
themselves totally to prayer and the service of others.”
(Chap.
6)
Practical and
prophetic this priest in his testimony confronts the question not
only of homosexuality, but also of homosexual marriage and
adoption. (Chap. 9)
Not surprisingly
Abbé Pierre has nothing against the ordination of women to the
priesthood. (Chap. 10) And in the following chapters he considers
freely the possibility of a loving sexual relationship between
Jesus and Mary Magdalene.
This testimony of
a “living saint” may delay his canonization by Rome, because he
has committed the greatest crime—telling the truth about the
priesthood and celibacy. Scandal. But his truth telling will not
bring him the fate of Joan of Arc either. Canonized or not, the
great hope is that his example—simple, eloquent, personal
testimony—will inspire other priests who are writing about the
priesthood and celibacy to risk honesty in their efforts to
rehabilitate the image of priests.
It takes
(saintly?) courage to speak the simple truth about sex and
celibacy. This demonstrates that it is not impossible for a priest
to do so.
{I am indebted to
Maceij Bielawski of Verona for introducing me to this book and
assistance in translating the passages}